This thought came after a bit of reflection on how I try to be as authentic as I can be around the people in my life. Almost to a fault. I’m not saying you should never change your demeanour dependent on social situations. I’m talking about never choosing to behave the way you naturally would because you are fearful of shame or embarrassment.
Will this mean some people won’t like your presence? Oh sure. But do you want those people in your life anyway? Even if you have nothing against them, I think its super important to only vibe with people who accept you whole heartedly. They definitely don’t have to agree with you on every decision and view and visa versa. That’s like saying two people of different religions can’t associate together. Makes no sense right? You either like that person and enjoy their company, or you don’t. You are never ever going to find someone that thinks exactly like you or agrees with you 100%. Think about your own parents, siblings, children – the people who are closest in your life. You probably don’t agree with how they act or think a lot of the time but you let it go because they’re family. Why should we stop there? You’re in just as much contact, if not more with people you’re choosing to be with outside of home. Its important to be around people who have the same interests and who’s views align with yours, but it is also just as important to know that other views exist outside of yours. It can be very easy to believe everything you think is correct if no one else exposes you to something otherwise. Its called living in an echo chamber and that can be a dangerous thing…
If you have to walk on eggshells around someone who you care about and is in your close circle, then they aren’t really associating with you are they? They’re association with the version of you that you’re displaying to them. And then do they really care for you in the same way as you, them?
I’m not saying you should always feel the need to argue your point across if you disagree but just not sharing your view or reacting naturally from fear of being reprehended is not a way you want to live your life. There are so many humans on this planet. Trust me, you will find people who will want to vibe with you!
And if you’re that person that’s judgemental and makes someone feel like the way that they go about life is incorrect just because it doesn’t line up with your way of thinking then I seriously think you should check yourself. We are all different and its a beautiful thing to connect with different people. It’s how we grow and where creativity and innovation comes from.
Just be you boo boo.